Gorgeous Looking Guys - More Of A Burden Than A Gift In Nigeria

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More Of A Burden Than A Gift In Nigeria

Contrary to common presumption in Nigeria being handsome doesn't necessary place the handsome looking in a privilege position regarding certain niceties in life, as a matter of the fact it's the less gorgeous and ugly looking dude that tends to benefit more.

Had it not been for naijaboiy's frontpage gracing topic on Nairaland on this same subject I still wouldn't have found the impetus to share the following conversation between I and a babe who despite my overtures kept refusing my sincere endeavor.

If you are a cute looking guy going through this issue, know this, you are not alone. . .
To Debby:

What I am trying to explain to you earlier on is based on what has happened and is still happening to me, recently being you. It's not that really weird that what I'm about to explain seems to be only peculiar in Nigeria and I noticed it’s due to certain unaddressed psychosocial factors and it goes


I have long ascertained that the chances of an handsome guy here in Nigeria to successfully woo-and-hook-up just one babe is very slim to that of an ugly or less cute-looking guy would woo-and-bed several babes in a year simply because it is a common believe though a misconstrued one at that here in Nigeria that any fair-skinned/light-complexioned or handsome guy is by default a womanizer, a lady-killer, a Casanova, thereby setting we cute-looking guys at a disadvantage because he is automatically assumed to be a playboy who is presumed to have several girlfriends at his disposal, all because of an incorrect assumption that their facial attractiveness is beguiling, while the ugly or not-too-cute-looking guys are seen as someone who should be more committed and likely to be faithful in any given relationship.

But in the Nigerian reality it's the ugly and not-too-cute dudes who end up getting laid more often than the handsome looking ones. Why again? Because the thought process of a Naija babe automatically execute a mental application that constantly reminds her that "after all this Dayo is not that good looking enough like those very handsome, super-cute ones who females readily falls head over hills for" and so does she never suspect him of having not just one but multiple sexual partners if the relationship is even strictly a bedmates one, much less of being a two-or-more-timer in a committed relationship.

This is what I was explaining to my friend (Emeka) the other evening, analyzing the whole thing for him since he felt puzzled as to why my other friend (Kunle) with his charcoal-dark skinned, thick lips, flappy bodied, oblique face guy could manage to have strafed all those babes he bragged on to our ears about while I and Emeka were so into the soccer video game. I, very much understood that Kunle's unwarranted continuous mouthing in that moment was his way to compensate for his lack of affinity towards video gaming like most guys have.

So later on as I escort home my friend Emeka who only just came by for the first time and also happen to be meeting Kunle for the first time kept wondering aloud to me as to why we can’t even boast of such enormous enormity despite our good-looks n clean to which I told him that it’s not as if our Naija babes might not eventually accede to the wooing efforts of handsome looking guys but only that she’s gonna make him try so extra, extra, phucking hard to prove beyond any doubt whatever he says or whatever emotional flux his troubled by (lol).

I went further to inform him that my theory even satisfies the reason why some cute-looking guys who hasn’t developed or worked on their babe wooing skill end up been gay and why more very handsome guys patronizes brothels these days due to sexual frustration because they just can’t stand the rigor required for swaying average Naija babes.

In conclusion I told him he best not be feeling dismayed since his own case also has to do with his lack of confidence to approach and initiate a tasty conversation with an opposite sex, so I told him of the only alternative which serves as an exception to my theory been that - if only those cute but timid Naija guys were rich or financially buoyant, then he wouldn’t bother to say much since money also speak louder through measure of material possessions or extravagant flaunting (yes 95% of our females are drawn by it, no offense) but then again such upper-hand is not exclusive to handsome/cute-looking guys alone.

It gave him great relieve when I concluded to him that we should rather channel our focus towards been financially successful as soon as one understood well the situation here in Nigeria unlike in a normal country where babes don’t care if you are dead gorgeous or hideous, rich or poor, so far you possess certain qualities ranging from been a sex stud to been skillful, talented or brilliant, hooking up is as easy as ABC.

To substantiate my theory for him I ask him to mentally revert the gender role as thus - why do some guys feel so insecure and or jealous because of their very beautiful girlfriend knowing well that other guys definitely must be attempting to have her, so they’d rather date or hook-up with not-too-pretty babes, some even prefer the peace of mind marrying an ugly lady brings to their heart, this is one if the reason why many pretty babes end up doing pornography in the USA and the so called runz-girls here in Nigeria because every guy thinks she can't be faithful because they too falsely presume she’s too pretty to stay loyal to them on the possibility that there are other guys out there with more money, wealth, etc looking to entice her attention to their side.

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